Living with Premature Ovarian Insufficiency and starting a family

Emily Fisher had always known her mother experienced an early menopause and was wary the same could happen to her. When she went to the doctors with her concerns, she was merely given the advice to ‘have children young’, but she wasn’t ready to take this step in her early 20s and decided to look into her fertility options. Investigations did indeed confirm her fears and with the help of a fertility specialist with an interest in POI, she was able to become pregnant. 

After having twins, Emily suffered with multiple symptoms that could have been explained away as related to post-pregnancy hormones, but she knew there was more to it. Specialists offered conflicting advice on how best to manage her very low mood, brain fog and hot flushes. With the help of a POI specialist, Emily had to advocate for herself to get the right type and dose of HRT, and she’s now becoming more confident to talk to family and friends about what she has gone through and about the treatment she takes. 

 Emily’s tips for young women who may have POI: 

1. Find out your family history, ask your mother, aunties, cousins, grandmothers what age they were when they started menopause. If any of them had it when young, try and speak to a healthcare professional about it. If you’re having any trouble getting pregnant, act early and if you can afford it, see a fertility specialist that specialises in POI. 

2. Do not give up! If you think something’s not right, see another doctor if you have to, or a nurse specialist.  

3. Talk to you partner, tell your friends and family. Don’t be embarrassed, we need more women to speak about this. Doing this will help you feel less alone.

You can follow Emily on Instagram at @motheringandthemenopause